Hey, Soul Sistas

The other night I was watching a movie on Netflix a Beautiful Day in the Neighbourhood, and the guy Lloyd is a journalist and he has his own personal struggles going on in his life and he ponders the question, of the world being unhealed!

This made me think of the world and actually how an unhealed world we are, so how do you fix it?

I just want to point out here that I don’t claim to know how to fix it, but I have some theories.

At the start of the movie Tom Hanks plays a children’s presenter and he talks about forgiveness, and do you think you can forgive yourself and others!

Over the years I have worked on forgiveness to myself and others and help others understand the power in forgiveness.

It’s not just a case of saying I forgive you, and that’s it, it’s understanding that forgiveness comes when you are ready to let go of the anger it caused you.

Being angry at something that happened a year ago or ten years ago serves no purpose to you and only harms you, not the other person. When you decide to forgive you are giving up the burden of carrying the emotional baggage from the situation and are not prepared to keep feeding it energy and focusing on it. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean that everything is going to be rosey with this person or people. What’s done is done, you learn the lesson and move on.

In some situations you may reconcile with the people, as remember they maybe sorry and want to apologise for their behaviour and maybe they acted out of character for circumstances that were going on in their life at the time. We have lost the ability to have compassion, for ourselves and for others.

What I am observing in the world is the mass pain collectively we are all in, and we are turning on each other.

A classic example is the the whole vaccine debacle, which I’m not turning into a debate….  What you choose for your body is completely your choice and should be respected by each other not to turn on each other.

In my opinion you can only do what is right for you and your body alone  not for anyone else to judge or make a decision on. You live in your body daily others don’t.

It seems these days if your opinion doesn’t fit with others whether it be about the vaccine, how you bring your kids up, what you eat, where you holiday… there is always a criticism about it, you can’t do right for doing wrong, and we wonder why people’s mental health and wellbeing is poor.

There is so much mixed messages being sent out. You just need to look at what the media tell you about food, eat meat, don’t eat meat, salts bad for you, oh wait a minute you need a certain amount of salt, fats bad for you don’t eat fat, oh wait you need good fats, eggs are good for you, oh no wait too many are bad for you, is it any wonder we don’t know if we are coming or going.

Have we lost the ability to do what feels right for you?

Do we need to constantly be told what to do?

Do you need to be told how you should feel?

All for the fear of what someone may think of us…

I believe when we can start loving ourselves and focus on our own wellbeing that’s when the world will heal.

I’ve said from the start of the pandemic that this is a test for us to slow us down and to reconnect back to ourselves, to build our resilience and to get back our ability to think for ourselves and be happy with the choices we make for ourselves. To love who we really are, to love ourselves without the need of another to validate us, and the love we do have from others enhances us not completes us as we are already complete.

Love conquers all in the end.

The Power of Love song, is blasting in my head…

The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
The power of love
A force from above…….. Make love your goal!

How powerful!

So make now be the point where you

– forgive yourself for being to hard on yourself

– love yourself like you’ve never loved yourself before

– let go of judgement for yourself and of others

– allow yourself to be happy, you don’t need to feel guilty about it

Much love to you all ❤️

Heather xXx