Hey, Soul Sistas

What’s happened to our world?

Why have we all become so distrusting in others? That everyone has an agenda. Nobody does anything just because they want to be helpful or kind. I helped a elderly woman in a shop the other day get something from the top shelf that she was struggling to reach, whilst others walked passed seeing her struggle, staff included, I asked if I could get the item for her and she was so grateful as she said it was her favourite and thought she was going to go without. It made me sad to think that something so simple seemed alien to another.

This week has been full of conversations about dating and navigating relationships. Why has it become so difficult?

Look at dating, for example. We now swipe left or right on someone you think you might like, making a judgement before you’ve even met the person, like swiping through a catalogue to see what fits your criteria. Or having a variety of dates and trying to keep up what’s been said to each person or worse still finding someone you get on with, even like and think this could be something to be devastated by finding out they’re married or about to be married! And we wonder why there is trust issues in relationships, and go into other relationships on high alert!

Is dating not about getting to know someone? Some people click, and some people don’t, and that’s ok. We have become a culture where it’s what we can get. Nobody seems to want commit to a person anymore, and if something is not right then throw it a way and move on, not a chance of working through stuff and growing, after all nobody is perfect.

I do believe, though, who you are with it should be for the right reason for each party. Love and compassion for each other and the ability to allow each other grow and support each other. Maybe my opinions are old-fashioned and outdated, but maybe that’s what we need, back to basics and back to allowing each other to be themselves without being lost by wondering what mask you have to have on today, or having to second guess everything they say.

We are becoming a society that is more aware of mental health and the need to nurture ourselves in order to not become mentally ill. Maybe we need to stop looking for a relationship to see what we can “get” from it, and start being kind, caring and compassionate that way we can’t loose ourselves or worry about today’s mask.

People look for outside validation from another. If we could love ourselves the way we give love to another, we would have more happy and fulfilled relationships.

We need to stop denying ourselves being with another for fear of what ifs, everything is a lesson or blessing , what if you didn’t try and it was the one that changed everything.

Just be you, stop denying yourself happiness and joy, live life ❤️

Much love, Heather xXx